"I don't need anyone, I don't care about anyone, I stand alone." While many of the guys out there pride themselves in believing and to some extent even in living this preposterous adage, probably to demonstrate their strength, I am pretty sure that there are moments when the presence or absence of that special person in one's lives can make all the difference.
Yes, everyone has friends and family to share their moments of despondence and elation, but the constant thought of "not being understood completely" might just impale them, be it for a brief moment. Our parents and only parents are the ones who probably come closest to "that special person" in understanding us, but again, it doesn't happen always, it doesn't happen with everyone.
Containing one's grief is probably the easier task. One can just shun company and spend some quality time in solitude to address the grievances of the heart as well as that of time. Sometimes, some a tear or two, or a smoke or drink, or sumptuous food or just sleep can put you back in the good mood. Ridding oneself of grief is something that we all learn as we grow - moving on with time, it's just something that we teach ourselves subconsciously much like an infant teaching itself how to walk or sit. It's something that is tough to do but we all learn it, eventually.
But containing one's happiness. That is difficult. Imagine yourself getting what you had always wanted and then not having anyone "important" to share it with. Imagine yourself achieving the impossible dream that you had always cherished and then not having people who could understand the rush of positive emotions that infiltrates each and every organ of your system. Just imagine yourself being happy and not having "that special person" who can feel what exactly that happiness means to you. Shunning company wouldn't be a solution. Exuberant display of happiness could help to some extent, but that's not something that you would seriously consider in order to allow your happiness to sink in. You need people to share your happiness with, but you can't ever be sure whether all of them fully understand and appreciate the reason behind your happiness. All I can say is that - it's difficult to relish your happiness without "that special person". Far more difficult than reconciling with the absence of "that special person" in times of distress.
I don't intend to take away anything from the impact that friends might have on our lives. But they can't be substitutes for "that special person" - at least not perfect substitutes. You need "that special person" to share your happiness with. You need "that special person" who helps you understand and experience the true quality of your happiness. You need "that special person"...I need "that special person".
Yes, everyone has friends and family to share their moments of despondence and elation, but the constant thought of "not being understood completely" might just impale them, be it for a brief moment. Our parents and only parents are the ones who probably come closest to "that special person" in understanding us, but again, it doesn't happen always, it doesn't happen with everyone.
Containing one's grief is probably the easier task. One can just shun company and spend some quality time in solitude to address the grievances of the heart as well as that of time. Sometimes, some a tear or two, or a smoke or drink, or sumptuous food or just sleep can put you back in the good mood. Ridding oneself of grief is something that we all learn as we grow - moving on with time, it's just something that we teach ourselves subconsciously much like an infant teaching itself how to walk or sit. It's something that is tough to do but we all learn it, eventually.
But containing one's happiness. That is difficult. Imagine yourself getting what you had always wanted and then not having anyone "important" to share it with. Imagine yourself achieving the impossible dream that you had always cherished and then not having people who could understand the rush of positive emotions that infiltrates each and every organ of your system. Just imagine yourself being happy and not having "that special person" who can feel what exactly that happiness means to you. Shunning company wouldn't be a solution. Exuberant display of happiness could help to some extent, but that's not something that you would seriously consider in order to allow your happiness to sink in. You need people to share your happiness with, but you can't ever be sure whether all of them fully understand and appreciate the reason behind your happiness. All I can say is that - it's difficult to relish your happiness without "that special person". Far more difficult than reconciling with the absence of "that special person" in times of distress.
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